Your outward (physical) appearance is only for the perceptive view of others. How you see yourself means nothing, when you look in the mirror you might as well as be looking at someone walking down the street. When you think things about that person are you a bitch? do you pick them apart piece by piece ripping into them about every tiny spec and imperfection? Do you yell at them how imperfect they are and how ashamed they should be for the way they look? Do you look that stranger in the eye and judge them fully and completely? Or do you look through what you see and find what lies hidden deeper beneath it all and smile as they walk by. Would you harass a girl who was insecure about herself? Would you call an anorexic girl fat  or tell an overweight person to stop eating because they look disgusting? So why do you ever say any of these things to the stranger in the mirror every time you look. Why can't you smile at them and compliment them? Why can't you promote their happiness, help them help themselves and by helping that stranger you can help yourself. Don't be a stranger to who you are but instead be very close lovers.